Quarantining with a partner can present a myriad of issues—changes in power dynamics and roles in the relationship due to job changes or job loss, coparenting while trapped together, stressors related to worrying about older or at risk family members, loss of alone time, inability to engage in enjoyable hobbies or coping skills, etc. All of these challenges can of course spill over into our sex … [Read more...] about Sexual Issues in the Time of Quarantine
Expanding Your Sexual Menu
Over the course of a long-term relationship there will be points where penetrative sex is not an option, or when couples want to expand their sexual repertoire even if penetrative sex is still an option. Common reasons why couples must sometimes take penetrative sex off the table include when the female partner is struggle with a sexual or pelvic pain condition, when a partner is receiving … [Read more...] about Expanding Your Sexual Menu
Managing Existential Anxiety in Today’s Stressful World
In the last several years I have more clients reporting anxiety over a myriad of national and global concerns (political upheaval, endless financial burden/stress, climate crisis, etc.). These concerns can often cause existential anxiety, leaving many to question the meaning and purpose of their life. Here are 5 suggestions about managing existential anxiety in our stressful world: Consider … [Read more...] about Managing Existential Anxiety in Today’s Stressful World
New Years Goals for the Newly Single
New Years can feel like a real downer if you’re still grieving the loss of a marriage or a long-term relationship (and for those of you no longer grieving that loss and are embracing your new life-good for you!). This blog is for those who are newly single who are struggling with their new single status. Consider these possible New Years goals and try to identify one that you would like to … [Read more...] about New Years Goals for the Newly Single
Why & How Narcissists Love to Play the Victim
Narcissists tend to behave in a horrible yet predictable pattern when in conflict with another (especially a relationship partner). The narcissist will twist reality to weave a distorted story of their “victim” status and manipulate others in to believing that the partner/ex-partner was an abuser. The typical pattern looks like this: The Narcissist is living in deep levels of denial … [Read more...] about Why & How Narcissists Love to Play the Victim
When Having Children Is Not Possible: Moving Forward As A Couple
Even with infertility treatment some couples are not able to conceive after years of attempting. If couples choose not to pursue other routes to having children (adoption, surrogacy, donor eggs or donor sperm) the couple needs time to grieve not being able to have children. However, at a certain point it is healthy and helpful to make new dreams with your partner. Having children forces couples … [Read more...] about When Having Children Is Not Possible: Moving Forward As A Couple