Statistics may vary but according to one of the most recent studies, as many as 37% of married men and 20% of married women have been unfaithful. In the United States, 1 in every 2.7 couples – more than 21 million – is touched by infidelity. Statistics only help you to consider that affairs are common, and you are not alone. Here are a few things to keep in mind before starting couples therapy to … [Read more...] about Three Stages of Healing After an Affair – What happens in couples therapy?
Most American families (67%) do not eat dinner together regularly, and of the 1/3 who do, half of these have the television on during dinner (Retrieved from The Intentional Family, Bill Doherty). Consider this fact and the fact that many couples do not make time to be together. Is it your fault? Absolutely not! Life is busy. Your to-do list is often endless, and your priorities always change. … [Read more...] about Feeling Disconnected with Your Partner? 5 Essential Rituals of Connection That Will Improve Your Relationship
“This is just how I am when I’m in a relationship.” No, struggling with a relationship problem, such as feeling insecure in your romantic relationships, can be caused by an adult attachment style you have. Adult attachment styles are characterized by the behavior that you exhibit when your relationship is threatened. Some of these behaviors can be experiencing constant self-doubt and low … [Read more...] about Feeling Insecure in Your Relationships Your Adult Attachment Style Plays a Big Role and Here is Why
Longing for a felt sense of connection is a primary need for human beings. It’s like oxygen, we all need to feel connected. This need for connection becomes more of a priority when you feel uncertain, overwhelmed by life, threatened, not balanced, or not in control. That being said, this need is there all the time. At first glance, attachment is a theory about what happens when you are upset, … [Read more...] about How Working with an Attachment-Oriented Therapist Can Benefit You
Emotional Recovery Freud was wrong. Sex and aggression are not the most powerful human instincts. The most powerful human instinct is your need to connect with another human being. Calling out into the darkness, and asking “Are you there?” and hearing the answer, “Yes, I am here. You are not alone” is a universal human need. This answer changes everything because it is meeting your attachment … [Read more...] about Healing from the Pandemic Blues
Foreboding joy is defined as a dress rehearsal for a tragedy. It is the “Holy crap!” moment that you experience when you realize that work is going well, your parents are doing okay, your children are happy, and you have a good relationship with your partner. Often the following thought is, “Something bad is going to happen”. Shame and vulnerability researcher Brené Brown says, “When we lose our … [Read more...] about Why Does Feeling Happy Makes You Feel Vulnerable? Let’s Talk About Foreboding Joy