New Years can feel like a real downer if you’re still grieving the loss of a marriage or a long-term relationship (and for those of you no longer grieving that loss and are embracing your new life-good for you!). This blog is for those who are newly single who are struggling with their new single status. Consider these possible New Years goals and try to identify one that you would like to … [Read more...] about New Years Goals for the Newly Single
A healthy relationship is a loving relationship. Love is a deep and vital emotion that satisfies certain needs, coupled with caring for and acceptance of the beloved and resulting in an intimate relationship. When I use the word “love” in this blog, I want you to think of “romantic love”. Often, I think of a relationship as a house - if you are in a relationship, you have a house. It may be … [Read more...] about The Structure of Healthy Relationships
In a therapy session, I clarify what is not love more frequently than what love is. Once you get familiar with common misinterpretations of love, recognizing romantic love is easier. Identifying red flag behaviors early on your relationship, is going to help you build healthy relationships. Have you ever heard the word “limerence”? Limerence is often described as the altered state of mind when … [Read more...] about Red Flag Behaviors in Relationships That are Often Misinterpreted as Love
Why am I feeling so angry? I lose my temper with my partner I feel so frustrated with my child. I should be happy right now, but I’m not. Is this normal? I hear these statements from many postpartum clients experiencing mood disorders. The expectations for new moms are not always realistic and not always applicable. Sometimes there’s unfair expectations for a new mom to be happy and smitten … [Read more...] about Postpartum Rage: Why no one talks about it and everyone should.
What causes conflict in a relationship? The answer is everything. Everything has a potential to cause a conflict between you and your partner. However, the most common conflicts that couples have are money, sex, children and housework. Conflict is Healthy Conflict is inevitable. In a stable relationship, conflict occurs approximately twice a week, even in the happiest relationships. It is … [Read more...] about Tips for Better Communication with Your Partner When a Conflict Occurs
Self-sabotage is a way of engaging in self-destructive behaviors. When things are going great, such as your romantic relationship, you may do something that causes disruptions in your relationship. Sometimes, not doing anything is also considered as self-sabotaging, such as procrastinating or avoiding. There are common signs of self-sabotaging behaviors. For example; procrastinating, dwelling … [Read more...] about Why do you self-sabotage?