There are a range of normal and healthy responses to grieving a loss. However, couples sometimes experience distress when they perceive their partner’s way of grieving as different. Difference is actually okay. But it is often the stories couples tell themselves about this difference that causes an issue: i.e. “He/She just doesn’t care,” “He’s/She’s taking too long to get over this,” “He/She is … [Read more...] about When Couples Grieve Differently
You recently discovered your partner had an affair, and what you once thought of your relationship is forever changed. Maybe you just discovered the affair hours ago, or maybe you have been grappling with the news of infidelity for months. Either way, what to do about the relationship is likely still looming over you. The following are some critical, core questions you want to ask yourself. You … [Read more...] about My Partner had an Affair: Do I stay or Go?
All marriages, even the healthiest, experience difficulties and challenging times. Sometimes couples are unable to resolve their issues and decide to pursue separation and divorce. But deciding to leave a marriage is an extremely difficult decision. Clients often tell me in a very concerned way, “I can no longer see a future with my partner.” While not being able to see a future with your partner … [Read more...] about 10 Signs Its Time to Leave Your Marriage
A common statement I hear from clients (more often my female clients) is “I should not be angry.” Clients will shame themselves for feeling angry even in situations in which an appropriate response would be to feel angry. In fact, suppressing or bottling up your anger (especially in situations where anger is warranted) is not healthy! Suppressing or bottling up your anger can cause depression, … [Read more...] about Letting Anger Move You
In addition to medication and talk therapy, there are natural ways to treat depression. Remember, medication is not a magic bullet. Many people find they still need to make lifestyle changes even if they are taking medication. Consider the following natural ways to treat depression: Use a Light Box: Light boxes have been shown to reduce depression symptoms. Light boxes are easy to use and … [Read more...] about Natural Ways to Treat Depression
Many people undergoing treatment for cancer notice a decrease in sexual desire. Sexual desire may decrease due to physical pain, physical exhaustion, mental exhaustion, GI distress, nausea, skin irritation, hormonal changes, anxiety, depression, respiratory distress, loss of sexual self-esteem, negative body image, etc. In addition, relationship distress, which can be common during cancer … [Read more...] about When Cancer Treatment Gets in the Way of Sexual Desire