Have you recently found evidence of your partner cheating? “I saw multiple texts from an unknown number on my partner’s phone, and I looked into it further.” “My partner left his/her email account open on the computer, which he never does.” “I had a hunch something was off, so I combed through our credit card statements.” The stories told of how people have caught their partner cheating are … [Read more...] about I Caught My Partner Cheating. Now What?
The start a new year can represent a new chapter, especially for those who may be grieving (loss of a loved one, loss of a marriage, recovering from a major trauma, etc.). But for those who are grieving it is sometimes hard to think about or even imagine the next chapter. If you’re having trouble imagining what is next, try filling in the following statements: I wish I had given myself … [Read more...] about Creating New Years Goals for Those Who are Grieving
There are a range of normal and healthy responses to grieving a loss. However, couples sometimes experience distress when they perceive their partner’s way of grieving as different. Difference is actually okay. But it is often the stories couples tell themselves about this difference that causes an issue: i.e. “He/She just doesn’t care,” “He’s/She’s taking too long to get over this,” “He/She is … [Read more...] about When Couples Grieve Differently
You recently discovered your partner had an affair, and what you once thought of your relationship is forever changed. Maybe you just discovered the affair hours ago, or maybe you have been grappling with the news of infidelity for months. Either way, what to do about the relationship is likely still looming over you. The following are some critical, core questions you want to ask yourself. You … [Read more...] about My Partner had an Affair: Do I stay or Go?
All marriages, even the healthiest, experience difficulties and challenging times. Sometimes couples are unable to resolve their issues and decide to pursue separation and divorce. But deciding to leave a marriage is an extremely difficult decision. Clients often tell me in a very concerned way, “I can no longer see a future with my partner.” While not being able to see a future with your partner … [Read more...] about 10 Signs Its Time to Leave Your Marriage
A common statement I hear from clients (more often my female clients) is “I should not be angry.” Clients will shame themselves for feeling angry even in situations in which an appropriate response would be to feel angry. In fact, suppressing or bottling up your anger (especially in situations where anger is warranted) is not healthy! Suppressing or bottling up your anger can cause depression, … [Read more...] about Letting Anger Move You