“If I had one dollar deposited into my savings account whenever anyone downplayed their trauma, I’d be a millionaire by now.” “If a stranger handed me twenty bucks every time someone contemplated whether or not their trauma ‘counts’, I’d be set for life in no time.” Know that there’s no such thing as a trauma club gatekeeper, and keep in mind that it’s not up to me or others to pound the gavel … [Read more...] about Trauma Markdowns and Narcissistic Abuse Fog
How To Survive the Holiday Season
The holidays can often be both incredibly stressful and triggering for many reasons. You’re thrown off your regular schedule. There are financial stressors and gifts to buy. You have parties and functions to attend. You could be interacting with family members who you might not always get along with, or perhaps grieving the loss of loved ones who are no longer with us. All of this while the sun … [Read more...] about How To Survive the Holiday Season
Go with this (Part 2): EMDR, Bilateral Stimulation (BLS), and the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) Model
By: Chelsea Robinson What should you consider doing before reading this blog? Phone a friend. Read part 1 first. (hint: Go with this!) Take a walk. What else does bilateral stimulation (BLS) do? What is the adaptive information processing (AIP) model? During EMDR, BLS activates adaptive information processing—somewhat of a cognitive special effect that helps clients access, … [Read more...] about Go with this (Part 2): EMDR, Bilateral Stimulation (BLS), and the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) Model
Go with this (Part 1): A Quick Intro to EMDR Therapy
Which of the following combinations is the correct acronym for one of the most effective, widely-researched trauma therapy approaches? a. REMD b. EMDR (hint: Go with this!) c. MEDR Time heals all, they say. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy is a rare, shining gem that magically defies time—and hands millions of clients first-class train tickets, placing them on a … [Read more...] about Go with this (Part 1): A Quick Intro to EMDR Therapy
Perfectionism or Healthy Striving: What’s the Difference?
“I’m a perfectionist” – In a culture obsessed with appearance, performance, and productivity, it’s almost inevitable to fall into the trap of perfectionism. Our society tells you the way to be happy is to achieve your goals; earn more money, have a good body, find a romantic partner, get married, have children, buy a house, buy a car, get promoted… Your to-do list may feel like it’s endless. Most … [Read more...] about Perfectionism or Healthy Striving: What’s the Difference?
“I liked it?”: Unpacking Sexual Coercion and Sexual Trauma Response Misconceptions
Even if you aren’t a full-time attention-seeker, being serenaded likely gives you an adrenaline rush and makes you feel wanted, connected to others. When humans bask in either genuine or false positive attention, we often feel worthy—like we’re on top of the world. When others look the other way, however, we likely feel wounded, worthless. These are innate responses rooted in human nature, and, … [Read more...] about “I liked it?”: Unpacking Sexual Coercion and Sexual Trauma Response Misconceptions