“The truth hurts,” they say. Instead of accepting reality, people tend to apply avoidance strategies—hoping that doing so will magically erase roadblocks in the long run. When you navigate the world using a fragile ego as a compass, the truth doesn’t set you free; it propels you into a state of fury or even leaves you trapped in an abyss of endless, internal agony. For some, acknowledging the … [Read more...] about The Victim Façade (Continued): The Narcissist, Gaslighting, the Gaslightee, and DARVO
Abusive Relationships
The Victim Façade: Exposing the Wounded Narcissist who Confronts ‘Extreme Narcissism’
Narc: “Mirror, mirror, on the wall.” Narc: “Who’s the most victimized of them all?” Narc: “Pick me!” Narcissistic folks tend to be the type of people who throw stones at glass homes, terrifying and traumatizing occupants—only to eventually duck or run and later fabricate a massively tall tale, claiming that they were chased and hunted by a vicious mob of glass home owners. Narcissistic folks … [Read more...] about The Victim Façade: Exposing the Wounded Narcissist who Confronts ‘Extreme Narcissism’
Exploring the Connection between Sexual Abuse Rape Culture and (Mass) Grooming
Dear cancel culture, Cancel rape culture, already. Nowadays, cancel culture mainly intimidates public figures—leaving them deathly afraid of the demise of their careers, as well as willing to think twice about the words that they utter or have expressed about others in the past. Cancel culture likely knows that it’s beyond time for larger society to eradicate the toxic attitudes and traditions … [Read more...] about Exploring the Connection between Sexual Abuse Rape Culture and (Mass) Grooming
Attention-seeking Behaviors: Discovering the Narcissist’s Fixation with Admiration and Validation
Below is a brief dialogue between two individuals, a narcissist and the target. These people could represent romantic partners, friends, or even family members in a parent-child relationship, for example. PERSON 1/NARC (enters the living room, clears their throat, and coughs) You love me, right? What would you do if I weren’t here? PERSON 2/TARGET (looks up from their book and grins) Of course … [Read more...] about Attention-seeking Behaviors: Discovering the Narcissist’s Fixation with Admiration and Validation
Victim-blaming, villainization & Retraumatization
Picture the following: Your local news station reports an armed robbery at a nearby bank. Anchors diligently depict how law enforcement officers arrived at the crime scene to seize the culprits—and later release them, issuing citations. Despite this outcome, an investigation was still completed. During the investigation, detectives carefully reviewed the bank’s security camera footage and … [Read more...] about Victim-blaming, villainization & Retraumatization
The Infantilization Tactic: Parent-Adult Child Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Cues
‘Adulting’ can be exasperating—so much so that achieving autonomy and stability across the board seems nearly impossible at times. Adults who appear to ‘have it all together’ may witness other adults religiously rely on their parents for support and then grumble to themselves: “Cut the umbilical cord, already.” However, these ‘have it all together’ adults could benefit from considering that … [Read more...] about The Infantilization Tactic: Parent-Adult Child Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Cues