Narcissism can be a malignant malady. A narcissist may present with overt or covert tactics, and there’s even a narcissism spectrum—ranging from healthy to pathological or full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The narcissism trait also has the capacity to consume anyone’s personality and spread like wildfire, reaching across sexual orientation, age, and other social identity facets. The … [Read more...] about Baiting, Hoovering, and Triangulation: Uncovering the Energy Gold Mine and Energy-Sucking Narcissists
Abusive Relationships
Ten Types of Abusive Men
Tremendous variation exists among abusive styles. An abusive partner may change so much from day to day that he could not belong to any type. It is helpful to keep in mind that an abuser can have days when he turns into a loving, attentive and thoughtful partner. At these times, you may feel that his problems have finally gone away. However, abuse always comes back eventually unless the abuser has … [Read more...] about Ten Types of Abusive Men
When Living Together Isn’t Going Well During Quarantine
There are different levels of things not going well in a relationship during quarantine. On one end of the spectrum we have couples who are for most of the time getting along with only a minor dispute occasionally. Other couples are being tested by the time in quarantine and are noticing more frequent fighting, or that their fighting is more intense. While this is concerning, it can be managed and … [Read more...] about When Living Together Isn’t Going Well During Quarantine
5 Signs of Psychological Abuse
If you are struggling with your voice being heard, your opinions being valued, or your boundaries and accomplishments being recognized, then you may be in a psychologically abusive relationship. In this blog, I provide you the top 5 most common signs of psychological abuse in relationships to help you to recognize if you are in an abusive relationship. Insulting A … [Read more...] about 5 Signs of Psychological Abuse
Red Flag Behaviors in Relationships That are Often Misinterpreted as Love
In a therapy session, I clarify what is not love more frequently than what love is. Once you get familiar with common misinterpretations of love, recognizing romantic love is easier. Identifying red flag behaviors early on your relationship, is going to help you build healthy relationships. Have you ever heard the word “limerence”? Limerence is often described as the altered state of mind when … [Read more...] about Red Flag Behaviors in Relationships That are Often Misinterpreted as Love
Why & How Narcissists Love to Play the Victim
Narcissists tend to behave in a horrible yet predictable pattern when in conflict with another (especially a relationship partner). The narcissist will twist reality to weave a distorted story of their “victim” status and manipulate others in to believing that the partner/ex-partner was an abuser. The typical pattern looks like this: The Narcissist is living in deep levels of denial … [Read more...] about Why & How Narcissists Love to Play the Victim