“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it” – RUMI I wrote this blog for those who want to forgive and are ready to do so. If you are not ready to forgive or even to process what has happened, that is okay too. It’s not yet the right time for you to read this blog. When someone breaches your … [Read more...] about Forgiveness and the Barrier of Blame
Divorce & Adjustment
New Years Goals for the Newly Single
New Years can feel like a real downer if you’re still grieving the loss of a marriage or a long-term relationship (and for those of you no longer grieving that loss and are embracing your new life-good for you!). This blog is for those who are newly single who are struggling with their new single status. Consider these possible New Years goals and try to identify one that you would like to … [Read more...] about New Years Goals for the Newly Single
Why You Should Choose Parent Friendly Divorce Over Child Friendly Divorce
“Smooth divorce”, “amicable divorce”, “friendly divorce” are the common descriptions to define a “healthy divorce”. Much of the literature on divorce focuses on a “child friendly” divorce and they frequently mention the importance of “prioritizing your child’s needs”. On the other hand, “parent-friendly” divorce allows you to prioritize your parental needs for a healthier co-parenting process. … [Read more...] about Why You Should Choose Parent Friendly Divorce Over Child Friendly Divorce
Creating New Years Goals for Those Who are Grieving
The start a new year can represent a new chapter, especially for those who may be grieving (loss of a loved one, loss of a marriage, recovering from a major trauma, etc.). But for those who are grieving it is sometimes hard to think about or even imagine the next chapter. If you’re having trouble imagining what is next, try filling in the following statements: I wish I had given myself … [Read more...] about Creating New Years Goals for Those Who are Grieving
10 Signs Its Time to Leave Your Marriage
All marriages, even the healthiest, experience difficulties and challenging times. Sometimes couples are unable to resolve their issues and decide to pursue separation and divorce. But deciding to leave a marriage is an extremely difficult decision. Clients often tell me in a very concerned way, “I can no longer see a future with my partner.” While not being able to see a future with your partner … [Read more...] about 10 Signs Its Time to Leave Your Marriage
Benefits of Divorce Mediation
I recently had the opportunity to attend the Make Divorce Healthier Symposium and was able to meet likeminded therapists, lawyers, financial advisors and divorce coaches who all share the vision of making divorce healthier. When seeing couples or individuals who are going through the divorce process, I encourage them to seek mediation when possible. Here are a few ways mediating your divorce can … [Read more...] about Benefits of Divorce Mediation
