It’s one thing to deny and downplay one person’s lived experiences—twisting their words and reality like a spine-chilling contortionist and shoving them into a deep hole of self-doubt via gaslighting. It’s another thing to undermine and minimize painful experiences linked to entire racial groups. Now that’s what you call mass manipulation, rearing its ugly head in the form of racial … [Read more...] about Racial Gaslighting (Mass Manipulation), Self-gaslighting, and the Grey Rock Method
Narcissistic Abuse
The Victim Façade (Continued): The Narcissist, Gaslighting, the Gaslightee, and DARVO
“The truth hurts,” they say. Instead of accepting reality, people tend to apply avoidance strategies—hoping that doing so will magically erase roadblocks in the long run. When you navigate the world using a fragile ego as a compass, the truth doesn’t set you free; it propels you into a state of fury or even leaves you trapped in an abyss of endless, internal agony. For some, acknowledging the … [Read more...] about The Victim Façade (Continued): The Narcissist, Gaslighting, the Gaslightee, and DARVO
The Victim Façade: Exposing the Wounded Narcissist who Confronts ‘Extreme Narcissism’
Narc: “Mirror, mirror, on the wall.” Narc: “Who’s the most victimized of them all?” Narc: “Pick me!” Narcissistic folks tend to be the type of people who throw stones at glass homes, terrifying and traumatizing occupants—only to eventually duck or run and later fabricate a massively tall tale, claiming that they were chased and hunted by a vicious mob of glass home owners. Narcissistic folks … [Read more...] about The Victim Façade: Exposing the Wounded Narcissist who Confronts ‘Extreme Narcissism’
Attention-seeking Behaviors: Discovering the Narcissist’s Fixation with Admiration and Validation
Below is a brief dialogue between two individuals, a narcissist and the target. These people could represent romantic partners, friends, or even family members in a parent-child relationship, for example. PERSON 1/NARC (enters the living room, clears their throat, and coughs) You love me, right? What would you do if I weren’t here? PERSON 2/TARGET (looks up from their book and grins) Of course … [Read more...] about Attention-seeking Behaviors: Discovering the Narcissist’s Fixation with Admiration and Validation
The Infantilization Tactic: Parent-Adult Child Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Cues
‘Adulting’ can be exasperating—so much so that achieving autonomy and stability across the board seems nearly impossible at times. Adults who appear to ‘have it all together’ may witness other adults religiously rely on their parents for support and then grumble to themselves: “Cut the umbilical cord, already.” However, these ‘have it all together’ adults could benefit from considering that … [Read more...] about The Infantilization Tactic: Parent-Adult Child Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Cues
Baiting, Hoovering, and Triangulation: Uncovering the Energy Gold Mine and Energy-Sucking Narcissists
Narcissism can be a malignant malady. A narcissist may present with overt or covert tactics, and there’s even a narcissism spectrum—ranging from healthy to pathological or full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The narcissism trait also has the capacity to consume anyone’s personality and spread like wildfire, reaching across sexual orientation, age, and other social identity facets. The … [Read more...] about Baiting, Hoovering, and Triangulation: Uncovering the Energy Gold Mine and Energy-Sucking Narcissists