Narc: “Mirror, mirror, on the wall.” Narc: “Who’s the most victimized of them all?” Narc: “Pick me!” Narcissistic folks tend to be the type of people who throw stones at glass homes, terrifying and traumatizing occupants—only to eventually duck or run and later fabricate a massively tall tale, claiming that they were chased and hunted by a vicious mob of glass home owners. Narcissistic folks … [Read more...] about The Victim Façade: Exposing the Wounded Narcissist who Confronts ‘Extreme Narcissism’
Narcissistic Abuse
Attention-seeking Behaviors: Discovering the Narcissist’s Fixation with Admiration and Validation
Below is a brief dialogue between two individuals, a narcissist and the target. These people could represent romantic partners, friends, or even family members in a parent-child relationship, for example. PERSON 1/NARC (enters the living room, clears their throat, and coughs) You love me, right? What would you do if I weren’t here? PERSON 2/TARGET (looks up from their book and grins) Of course … [Read more...] about Attention-seeking Behaviors: Discovering the Narcissist’s Fixation with Admiration and Validation
The Infantilization Tactic: Parent-Adult Child Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Cues
‘Adulting’ can be exasperating—so much so that achieving autonomy and stability across the board seems nearly impossible at times. Adults who appear to ‘have it all together’ may witness other adults religiously rely on their parents for support and then grumble to themselves: “Cut the umbilical cord, already.” However, these ‘have it all together’ adults could benefit from considering that … [Read more...] about The Infantilization Tactic: Parent-Adult Child Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Cues
Baiting, Hoovering, and Triangulation: Uncovering the Energy Gold Mine and Energy-Sucking Narcissists
Narcissism can be a malignant malady. A narcissist may present with overt or covert tactics, and there’s even a narcissism spectrum—ranging from healthy to pathological or full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The narcissism trait also has the capacity to consume anyone’s personality and spread like wildfire, reaching across sexual orientation, age, and other social identity facets. The … [Read more...] about Baiting, Hoovering, and Triangulation: Uncovering the Energy Gold Mine and Energy-Sucking Narcissists
Why & How Narcissists Love to Play the Victim
Narcissists tend to behave in a horrible yet predictable pattern when in conflict with another (especially a relationship partner). The narcissist will twist reality to weave a distorted story of their “victim” status and manipulate others in to believing that the partner/ex-partner was an abuser. The typical pattern looks like this: The Narcissist is living in deep levels of denial … [Read more...] about Why & How Narcissists Love to Play the Victim
Surviving the Narcissist: What to do When the Abuser Cries Abuse
A frightening story I hear over and over is that of a narcissistic ex-partner abusing the legal system to abuse and bully their former partner. The narcissist will claim their former partner was or is abusive to him/herself and/or their pets or children. This form of abuse is costly to the victim, as the victim needs to hire a lawyer to defend themselves and may miss time away from work to deal … [Read more...] about Surviving the Narcissist: What to do When the Abuser Cries Abuse
