An experience that is not usually represented in sexual assault or sexual violence statistics is the experience of sexual coercion. However, coercive sexual experiences are a type of sexual assault and sexual violence and can cause similar trauma related symptoms. Many women who have coercive sexual experiences struggle with how to label or name what has happened to them. Review the checklist below about coercive sexual experiences if you find yourself trying to make sense of a confusing sexual experience.
Coercive sexual experiences often:
- Involve an inordinate or extreme amount of pressure for sex
- Is done by a person with power, authority or status over the victim (a teacher, a coach, a boss, a supervisor, an older peer etc.)
- Happen after a period of “grooming” the victim so they are more vulnerable
- Make the victim feel as if they are obligated to have sex with the offender
- Include threats of spreading lies or rumors about the victim by the offender
- Include promises of some kind of special treatment (for instance the advancement of a career) in return for sex
A survivor of a coercive sexual experience often feels like they:
- Owed the other person sex
- Will loose an opportunity if they do not give into the sexual advances
- Were tricked into engaging in sexual activity
- Were forced into the sexual activity
- Were worn down by repeated requests to give into sexual activity
- Are to blame for what happened
- Feel confused and distressed about what occurred
If you find yourself believing you experienced coercive sex, consider getting additional support such as seeking counseling. Therapy can be helpful in making sense of a coercive sexual experience and for healing from this distressing event.
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